Fuck Him (But Not Literally)

A guide to staying AWAY from your ex.

BY Rayna Einhorn ★ October 19th, 2025

Photo credit: Isabella Weisse

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “they always come back.” I’m here to tell you first hand that it's true, even after 2 years of no contact (yeah, I know). But, the real question is… how do we say no? 

For the love of god, un-add that man on Snapchat. 

I know it might seem hard, especially if you’re used to talking, or better put,snapping on the daily. Once you do it, though, you will immediately feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest. No more waiting for them to snap you back, just staring at the timer counting down to your next mental breakdown. Be free from that anxiety. Be mysterious. 

Get some hobbies

Like seriously, get some hobbies. Do something that is going to keep you occupied and distracted. Join a club, crochet, get absolutely shredded at the gym. Anything that doesn’t involve checking to see if he viewed your story. 

Stop Stalking

No more spending hours analyzing his social media, and yes, that includes even linkedin (I know you do it). The less you know about what he’s doing on the day to day, the easier it gets. 

Remember why it ended.

Every time you feel tempted to text them, remind yourself of all the reasons why you’re no contact. The lack of effort, dry replies, whatever it is, you deserve better. 

When he eventually circles back around (because he will), don’t mistake his timing for fate. The stars have not aligned to bring you back together. It's boredom, nostalgia, and straight up ego. You’ve already done the hard part by moving on. Don’t let one “I miss you” undo months of healing. Remember, you don’t owe them closure or a conversation. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.

Edited by: Dayna Bhatti Roberts