Find What Makes You Feel Sexy and RUN WITH IT
The sexiest thing a woman can be is confident in her own skin.
BY Georgia Kaufman ★ november 17th, 2025
Photo Credit: McKenna Cahill
If you were to ask me what the wisest thing I’ve ever been told is, I would tell you that it was to get my nipples pierced. Let me explain:
I have always fucking hated my belly button. HATED IT! Random, sure. But I did. It was always one of my biggest insecurities…until I got it pierced.
The summer before my senior year of high school, I was at a family friend’s lake house. Bikini babes around the pontoon, floating on the lilypad; every teenage girl’s summer dream, really. Except, I could not seem to enjoy my time. Why? Because my self obsessive, self-deprecating 17-year-old self was thinking about one thing and one thing only: everybody here is looking at how butt-ugly my belly button is.
I know what you’re probably thinking: Babe, this is ridiculous. What do you mean all you could think about was how ugly you thought your belly button was? And how people were looking at it?
To which I respond: I honestly have no idea.
I spoke to one of the college girls I was around because she saw I was noticeably uncomfortable and she fed me a sentence in a singular breath that changed the trajectory of my life: “I was always insecure about my boobs, and that’s why I got my nipples pierced. Now they’re my favorite part about me.”
Astonishing. I could not believe my ears. What do you mean this girl took the thing that she had always been insecure about and turned it into something so cool? So chic and sexy? So fun? I had never once thought of approaching discomfort in oneself head on, but rather always thought that the only way to get rid of insecurity was through masking it. Not through making it something you admired about yourself. It’s genius!
Fast forward to the winter of my freshman year at Cuse. I was depressed. I was super sick. I was pale as fuck. Experiencing my first ever seasonal depression. And then, bang. I had the epiphany:
I am going to get my belly button pierced
Obviously! And that was the smartest thing I have ever thought! Probably!
It’s pretty much been all uphill from there. Kind of. Well, at least in terms of how I view and speak to myself. I don’t know how to describe it other than by turning something that I was so insecure about into something I viewed as one of my favorite accessories of myself, there started to be a complete shift in my brain chemistry.
Finding what makes you feel the sexiest is an art that is to be mastered by all girls ages 18 to 92. We’re growing up. We’re learning that the sexiest thing a woman can be is confident in her own skin. Sexiness is a feeling, not a look. Hence, why sexiness is an art.
Maybe you used to go with the trends because you thought that by wearing what Hailey Bieber was wearing last weekend, you would pass as a nonchalant clean-girl. Wrong. You don’t. Because baby you weren’t meant for Brandy Melville baby tees and high-rise denim. You were meant for chalance and funky hats and mixed metals. Or whatever your prerogative is. I don’t know. All I know is that being strategic with what you decide to put on your body helps you grow into yourself. Immensely.
If sexiness is an art, it means it is something that can be practiced and perfected. You can develop your acquired style every day and slowly transform into the woman you want to be, just by acting like her. Create your own niche. The world is your oyster, girlfriend.
How to find it? Well, sister, that part is completely up to you. Maybe it’s by Pinteresting by day and partying by night. Maybe it’s reading self-help books and a fifteen-step skin care routine. How I found mine? By never learning how to shut up and getting my belly button pierced — obviously.
Whether it’s complete modesty in your going-out-outfit with a bombshell blowout, or rocking Ed Hardy jeans and a hoodie with a fresh spray tan that makes you feel your sexiest — we all have our own styles. Figuring out what makes you feel the most you is the most important thing a woman can do. Like, ever. Because, after all, the sexiest thing a woman can be is confident in her own skin.
Edited by: Dayna Bhatti Roberts