On Your Own, Not Alone
Exploring the beauty of spending time with yourself.
by Sophie Abt ★ APRIL 14th, 2026
Photo Credit: Sophie Abt
Ever felt like you are surrounded by people but still craving some me time? That is totally normal. Learning how to be alone is not about shutting the world out, it’s about finding comfort in your own company and realizing you do not need constant social validation to feel whole.
Why Being Alone Is a Superpower
Being self-sufficient can seriously boost your confidence and remind you that you can do anything you put your mind to. I get it,sometimes all you want is to hang with your college best friends 24/7. But taking a break does not mean you are missing out. It is actually a chance to reset, recharge and just breathe. That first moment of boredom might feel awkward or even a little sad. That is okay. Sitting with it is the first step toward really enjoying your own company and discovering what makes you feel alive.
Learning How to Entertain Yourself
Being alone does not have to mean endless scrolling on TikTok or Instagram. Think of it as a chance to dive into something that is actually yours.
Start a new hobby you have been curious about. Painting, journaling or even just going on a walk to clear your head.
Blast your favorite playlist and dance likenobody is watching. Trust me, your energy will shift instantly.
Tackle that dorm cleanup project you have been avoiding. It is oddly satisfying to turn a messy dorm into your safe space.
Bake or cook something new! It is so calming to try out new recipes and create something you thought you would never make.
When you get comfortable with yourself, you start growing in ways you never imagined. You learn how to rely on yourself, enjoy the little moments, and build confidence that lasts far beyond college.
Turning Alone Time Into Glow-Up Time
Alone time doesn’t mean lonely time. It is your moment to focus on what makes you feel good, learn new things and exist without pressure. Journaling your thoughts, meditating for five minutes or even just watching the sunset can be mini self-care wins. Next time you find yourself solo in your dorm or apartment, think of it as an opportunity to hang out with yourself (I know it sounds weird, but try it!). You will be surprised how fun and inspiring it can be.
Bottom Line
Being alone is a skill and one of the most empowering ones you can have in college. It is not about cutting people off. It is about loving your own company, exploring your interests and building confidence. So next time you are tempted to text your friends just to fill the silence, try embracing the quiet instead. Permit yourself to be your own best friend. After all, you are your biggest advocate in life. And when you can truly enjoy your own company, everything else feels a little bit easier.
Edited by: Ava Robbins