Not Rushing Into Belonging

When the fear of missing out makes you miss what truly matters.

by Camie Devlin ★ March 2nd, 2026

Photo Credit: Bonita Roka

Whether you tried out panhellenic recruitment or feel like you missed out on the opportunity, it’s understandable to have those thoughts of, “Am I behind?” The feeling of missing out can be amplified the most during recruitment season when it seems like everyone has a sense of belonging at college. If recruitment did not work out the way you wanted it to, it can hit even harder because it sparks the question of, “Why did it work out for everyone else, but not me?” The truth is, social life still exists outside of sororities. It is important to be grateful for the friendships that are present in your life outside of Greek life and take this opportunity to make new connections on campus. 

The reality is your social life is not lacking because sorority rush wasn’t for you. Social media can distort the idea of what you should be doing rather than displaying what’s important to you and your needs. 

Staying grounded can be difficult, especially when you are trying to cope with those feelings on top of the stress of school work and a busy schedule. If this sounds relatable, here are some practical and realistic ways that can help you make a difference in your everyday routine. 

Talk to someone new 

Syracuse University is a huge campus and it is never too late to make a new friend. You never know who you could meet and what opportunities you could have.

Join a club of your interest

If you are still interested in finding a community, there are a handful of clubs and organizations on campus that can offer the same feeling of belonging. Take the time to browse social media, the school website, or the club fair. 

Last but certainly not Least, Have Gratitude

Appreciate the friendships you’ve already made and those who make an effort to stay in your life. These people were meant to find you for a reason and should be your biggest supporters. If you feel distant from them, schedule a lunch or spend a movie night in with them. Take the time to make those existing connections stronger and keep your people close. 

Reassurance

You are not behind or an outsider. Putting yourself out there is scary, but not impossible. You are capable of creating a social life and finding your community. If you stay open-minded and persistent, you will find where you belong.

Edited. by: Maia Simmons & Ava Robbins